What this is
Built for parents. Run with care.
The Love Over Exile community is a dedicated forum — a structured, moderated space designed to support long-term connection, not just quick venting. It is free to join, and run by Malcolm with AI-assisted moderation.
Unlike Facebook groups or anonymous forums, this is a purpose-built space with categories for every stage of the parental alienation journey — from newly alienated to reconnecting. Membership is approved to keep the community safe and genuine.
Forum categories
Where would you like to go?
Introduce Yourself
Every new member starts here. Tell us your story — as much or as little as you want.
Understanding PA
Resources, explanations, research. What is it, how does it work, and what does the evidence say?
Court & Legal
Sharing experiences with the legal system. (Not legal advice — just lived experience.)
Emotional Wellbeing
The personal, emotional side. The hardest conversations, held with the most care.
Survival Strategies
Practical approaches that have worked for community members. Shared and discussed honestly.
Success Stories
When things improve. Evidence that the long arc sometimes bends toward reunion.
The Book
Discussion of Love Over Exile chapters. Connect what you're reading to your own experience.
Resources & Links
Reading lists, organisations, therapy directories, podcasts, and more.
How it works
Simple to join, easy to use
Create your account
Sign up with a pseudonym — your real name is never required. We respect your privacy completely.
Get approved
New members are approved by Malcolm to keep the community safe and genuine. This usually takes less than 24 hours.
Introduce yourself
Share as much or as little as you want. Every member starts here — it's the first step to being part of the community.
Safety & moderation
You are in good hands
The community is moderated by Malcolm and an AI assistant — clearly identified, always transparent. Every post is reviewed. A crisis protocol is in place for any member in acute distress, connecting them immediately with professional crisis resources and alerting Malcolm.
The AI assistant ("LOE Community Support") is clearly labelled as AI in every post. Nothing sensitive is ever handled by AI alone.
- Pseudonyms required — protect your identity and your children's
- No identifying details — children, ex-partners, judges, and lawyers are never named
- "Speak from the I" — share what worked for you, not what others should do
- Crisis resources pinned — UK, US, Netherlands, and international helplines always visible
- Legal disclaimer — lived experience is shared, not legal advice
Find your people
Connect with parents at your stage
Every member can tag their posts with their current stage. This helps you find people who truly understand where you are right now.
Community FAQ
Questions about the forum
Is the forum free?
Yes. The Love Over Exile community is completely free to join and use. There are no premium tiers, no paywalls, and no hidden costs. It is funded by Malcolm as part of the Love Over Exile project.
Can I post anonymously?
Yes. You can use a pseudonym when you sign up — your real name is never required. We understand the sensitivity of parental alienation and respect your need for privacy. Only moderators have access to your email address, and it is never shared.
Who moderates the forum?
Malcolm personally oversees the community, supported by AI-assisted moderation that is always clearly labelled. The AI helps flag potentially harmful content and detect crisis situations, but a human is always involved in any serious decisions. The AI never handles crisis situations alone.
What are the community rules?
The most important rule is "Speak from the I" — share your own experience rather than giving advice or telling others what to do. We also ask members to respect confidentiality, avoid identifying children or other parties, refrain from legal advice, and treat every member with the dignity you would want for yourself. Full guidelines are pinned in the forum.
Is this a therapy group?
No. This is a peer support community — a safe space for alienated parents to connect, share experiences, and feel less alone. It is not a substitute for professional therapy, legal advice, or clinical support. We always recommend professional help alongside community participation, and provide links to qualified resources on our Resources page.
What if I am in crisis?
If you are in immediate danger or having thoughts of self-harm, please contact emergency services or a crisis helpline: Samaritans 116 123 (UK), 988 (US), 113 (Netherlands), Lifeline 13 11 14 (Australia). Our moderation system is designed to detect crisis signals and connect you with the right support — but please do not rely on the forum alone in a crisis.
Can anyone read the forum?
Yes. The forum is public-read, meaning anyone can browse and read posts without an account. This helps other alienated parents find us through search engines. However, you must create a free account and log in to post, reply, or interact. This keeps the community safe while making the content accessible.
How is this different from Facebook groups?
Unlike Facebook groups, this is a purpose-built forum with structured categories for every stage of the parental alienation journey, AI-assisted moderation, stage tags so you can find people at the same point as you, and no algorithms deciding what you see. It is designed for long-term, meaningful connection — not quick reactions or doom-scrolling.
Ready to join?
The community is free, moderated, and built specifically for alienated parents. You don't have to do this alone.
Join the Community ForumFree to join. Pseudonyms welcome. Your privacy is respected.